Adoption Stories by Gladney - Why Adopt? Part 2

Why Adopt? (Part 2 of 4)

The story of  one couples mental, physical, emotional and spiritual struggles in making and sharing our life-long decisions to adopt children.

About the sixth year of trying to get pregnant, I started experiencing lower back pain which increased significantly over the weeks and months ahead.

Finally, my back pain was constant and excruciating.  My continuous use of over the counter B.C. tablets did no good at all.  That cold, rainy January day, depressed and crying, I called my gynecologist again.  He said, “Meet me in the emergency room and I will admit you into the hospital and we will run some tests.”

One week later to the day, nothing had been found as a definite reason that I had not been able to conceive.  Exploratory surgery was scheduled for the next day.  I remember my mother’s concern as to what they might find when they opened me up.  As a twenty-nine year old, I was far more concerned with wanting to have our own baby than I was being diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Immediately after the surgery, the surgeon reported that I had “an abscess on one ovary the size of an orange and on the other ovary, an abscess the size of a grapefruit.  Abscesses are not removed, but drained” Dr. Campbell said.  We were told they had probably been there a long time and he said, “If you ever get pregnant, it would be far more likely within six to eight months after surgery”.

With renewed hope, you can bet that my husband I gave priority time to doing our part.

While I was still recovering in the hospital, a family friend of my mother’s came by to see me.  I was out of the room so she visited with my mother.  She was there; I am convinced, by divine appointment.

She began telling mother that she and her husband had adopted their children from Texas Children’s Home, which at that time was The Edna Gladney Home in Ft. Worth, Texas.  The name is now The Gladney Center for Adoption.  She must have mentioned the Greer Garson movie “Blossoms in the Dust”, released in 1941, which was the story of Mrs. Gladney’s life and the inception of the adoption agency back in 1887.  When mother told me about their conversation, I remembered seeing the movie as a youngster and being deeply touched.

Sometime later, since I had missed Mrs. Williams’ visit, I went to see her and she showed me through her lovely home; the only time I was ever in her home or had ever exchanged more than a few words with her.

Large beautifully framed individual portraits of her two children graced the walls of her living room.  As she spoke so lovingly of them, my immediate thought was “you must be able to love a child just as much, even if you didn’t give birth to it”.

Very soon later, an acquaintance, who was a well-known businessman in the city where we lived, was talking to Bill and me about his children.  He said that one of his six or so children had a problem with his vision and he said, “It’s quite natural that my son has a problem with his eyes as all my life I have had a problem with mine”.  After hearing himself say this, he laughed and said, “That’s not true because Tom is one of our children that we adopted”.  He had forgotten for the moment which of his children had been born to them and which they had chosen to adopt.

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